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Playing Between the Sheets: What is your sexual play personality?

In the enchanting realm of human sexuality, Dr. Stuart Brown's concept of play personalities adds a fascinating dimension. Beyond the conventional understanding of play, these eight personalities become guides in the exploration of adult intimacy. Join me as I navigate the landscape of love, weaving through the lenses of Dr. Brown's play personalities, and discover how they seamlessly translate into the playful tapestry of sexual connection.


The Joker in the Bedroom


Laughter is a potent aphrodisiac, and the Joker brings humor and wit to the intimate space, turning moments into playful banter. Shared laughter fosters connection and joy, making the bedroom a space not just for passion but for light-heartedness.


Example: Playfully incorporating humor into intimate moments, such as sharing inside jokes, creating funny pet names for erogenous zones, or engaging in light-hearted banter during foreplay.


The Explorer of Sensuality


The Explorer in intimacy is a seeker of new sensations and experiences. From trying out new positions to incorporating sensory elements, this play personality thrives on the thrill of discovering uncharted territories of pleasure.


Example: Experimenting with sensory play, such as using silk scarves for soft touches, trying flavored lubes, or exploring different textures (like feathers or fur) to enhance the sensory experience.



The Kinesthete’s Dance of Passion


For the Kinesthete, physical expression is the language of love. Through movement, touch, and a keen awareness of the body, this personality transforms the act of lovemaking into a dance of passion.


Example: Engaging in slow, sensual dances together, incorporating massage techniques, or simply reveling in the pleasure of physical closeness through prolonged embraces and caresses.


The Competitor of Erotic Mastery


The Competitor views the bedroom as a canvas for skill refinement. Mastery in the art of seduction, the dance of anticipation — competition becomes a playful element, adding a spark of excitement to the erotic journey.


Example: Turning aspects of intimacy into a playful competition, like who can create the most enticing atmosphere or who can introduce a new and exciting element to the bedroom.


The Director of Sensual Scenes


The Director orchestrates intimate encounters like a maestro conducting a symphony. From setting the scene to guiding actions, this personality finds joy in the art of creating sensual scenarios, turning lovemaking into a masterpiece.


Example: Planning thematic intimate encounters, such as recreating a favorite movie scene or designing a sensual spa night at home with candles, essential oils, and soft music.


The Collector of Intimate Moments


The Collector treasures moments of connection, accumulating shared experiences as if building a treasure trove of intimacy. Each encounter becomes a cherished addition to the collection, contributing to the rich narrative of the relationship.


Example: Creating a shared intimacy journal to document special moments, milestones, or fantasies. Reflecting on and revisiting these entries together adds depth to the emotional connection.


The Artist/Creator of Erotic Expression


The Artist/Creator sees the erotic act as a canvas for expression. From exploring different forms of sensuality to introducing creative elements, this play personality finds fulfillment in the act of crafting a unique and intimate masterpiece.


Example: Incorporating body paint, exploring erotic photography, or experimenting with sensual foods like chocolate-covered strawberries to add a creative and artistic touch to lovemaking.


The Storyteller of Erotic Fantasies


The Storyteller in the Bedroom weaves narratives of passion and desire. Through shared fantasies, role-playing, or verbal storytelling, this play personality transforms the intimate space into a stage for exploring different erotic tales.


Example: Sharing and acting out fantasies or creating a collaborative erotic story. This can involve verbal communication or even writing down fantasies to be shared and realized over time.


WHAT IS YOUR SEXUAL PLAY PERSONALITY?


Remember, the key is mutual consent and communication in exploring these playful elements, ensuring that both partners feel comfortable and engaged in the shared experiences.


Whether you resonate with the humor of The Joker, the sensory exploration of The Explorer, or the competitive edge of The Competitor, incorporating play into your intimate moments can deepen connection and satisfaction. If you're eager to discover how to infuse more play into your sex life, consider reaching out to me: Jasmin - Certified Sex Therapist.

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